Principles

Everyone has their own principles/rules to follow (there is nothing so-called right or wrong/good or bad). If it hurts us then we name it as wrong/bad, if it doesn't then we term it as right/good. But the same principles don't apply to others when we feel good doesn't mean they feel it right, and when we feel it wrong doesn't mean they feel it bad. There are many examples if we try to explore some of our so-called habits/addictions/sufferings as such being alcoholic, smoker, having 20 times of tea a day, addicting to drugs, feeling lonely, insomnia, and many things as such.

Now it's up to me what I wanted to follow and make my life better for myself and for others. I don't want to get into many details of others where someone would raise and say, 'I feel better when I daily smoke as I am going through with lots of issues and I am depressed. At the end of the day, it gives me so much of peace of mind, where someone couldn't understand him what he is really going through'. We won't go in detail on that, as there are many aspects to be dealt with. Let's say if 50% of the population smokes and others don't then it is just because they feel it is going to harm their lives and their beloved ones so they termed it as bad to them, but not to the guys who feel heaven after puffing a cigar. This is just one instance.

I have identified a few strict principles to discipline my life, hopefully, you like it either. I don't know if I have picked up only the good things (that majority of people support it as well) as my principles going forward. Ultimately this is what I want to follow and who I wanted to be; I may break down at times but I will strive to take each and every step in following these key principles:

• I will never take alcohol, be it for fun or serious. I will never consume it. I will never support if someone is an alcoholic, I will never encourage someone to have it. It breaks down our family.
• I will never smoke, be it to showoff or style, or even when I am fully depressed or stressed. I have seen people, it either hurts them at some point in their life or their beloved ones at last.
• I will never quit from this life until it happens naturally no matter whatever are the circumstances I would rather prefer to correct/help myself rather than harming myself in such an extreme manner. I can help myself by crying out (this is the best medicine naturally we got to get rid of what we are going through), share my grief with loved ones (if not at least by talking with myself). There may be times when we just start getting this weird feeling that we don't find someone to share our grief with, might get a feeling that no one care for us, we start feeling very low but that's when we need to bring our inner strength & as the problem can shake us but we shouldn't allow it to collapse us. This needs to be told repeatedly & daily to keep motivating us. This is what our brain says but our heart is just a heart, it does the same thing that is suppose to do even the day after convincing ourselves that hardly. Go and get inspired,  be motivated always (there is no mantra how to achieve it but we need different doses daily to keep motivating us; we need to figure it out how). If we survive then nature blesses us, if we don't then world curse us.
• I will never hurt/harm especially any girl physically or mentally. As I am masculine gender and built strong, doesn't mean I can overpower on someone physically. I have seen worst to worst. I will never raise a hand against any girl to be whatever the situation turns out to be.
• I will try not to hurt/harm anyone as much as I could.
• I will workout daily, be it whatever day it is (I am happy, I am sad, I am sick, I am depressed, I am stressed; all are just nothing but excuses). I will stop procrastinating. It's not about losing or gaining weight, it's about being healthy and rejuvenating ourselves. No pain, no gain.
• I will minimize wasting food. I did a lot, but I will try to minimize as much as I can. But slowly I will stop wasting food as much as possible I could. I am not a perfect guy because we are like the way we are, we do mistakes but if we can figure out then it's better to correct it as much as we could, but I will try to minimize wasting water, electricity, etc. If we look out at these things then it directly doesn't affect us much but indirectly it affects others who are in real need. I read one of the best phrases so far, "if you got money to spend, spend it wisely or waste it as per your wish but you don't have the right to waste the resources which you don't own it".

There are many in terms of list and not from the aforesaid but if I need to break some of the rules to keep my life simple, happier, and beautiful then rather I complicate it with all other rules; I would happily break it down.

Small tip, all the principles that we draw for ourselves are to keep us in discipline but that doesn't mean we should hurt ourselves or others with those principles. Follow it strictly until unless it doesn't hurt you or your loved ones. Make rules to create discipline in life, break rules if needed to succeed in life. Those who balance it properly reaches new heights in their life. Being selfish, I want to be one of them.

With Love,

R a m e s h.