Be best of yourself

Our mind constantly judging ourselves whether our dress looks good or do we look good on this dress or whether we spoke correctly or is this how it's pronounced ? or is it was our fault ? or constantly thinking of not caring about anything.

We should make a decision about what to wear and what not for the day. We can choose between 100 different dresses that we might have but once we chose, we should forget about the same. We would be looking good for sure, if we ain't consciously adjusting our dress throughout the day, after all, we chose best from what we had. The rest should be history.

If we didn't have a proper haircut and went ahead for office then we really chose to go to the office by our choice, we can't keep adjusting our hair for the whole day. That's it. Either we should have planned to go for one before we left for our office or plan to go later. What is the point in worrying the whole day when we are out and then thinking whether we are looking good or not?

Those are trivial things to get an idea about that I planned to blog out here. Constantly observing and judging ourselves is not going to help us in any manner and as well as not going to improve ourselves.

As I read somewhere, if we are planning to improve our vocal skills, we shouldn't correct ourselves in the middle of our talks. If we do, either we stammer or we would lose either with the context or with words. Once we are done with our talk then we should take time, recollect them and see if any corrections could be made then probably, our subconscious mind would help going forward either by coming up with new vocabularies that we would have learned or to articulate them well.

Taking this as an analogy, it would be good if we can stop worrying about our emotional behaviors, vocal skills, grooming sense, or about any other thing constantly.

Sometimes, we need to live the way we brought up, each one of us came from different walks of life. It's perfectly okay to behave the way we are, basically being ourselves. We evolve and learn from our mistakes etc. We don't need to correct them then and there by watching someone or watching ourselves constantly.

If sometimes, feeling to yell then we should yell it out from our lungs, it's okay for that moment. If we feel like crying, we should cry it out and if we want to laugh then we should laugh it out loud. We can think later whether yelling was necessary and should we apologize to someone or not but by this time, we should have learned that we are responsible for what we speak and we can't simply revert or regret what we told, so, we should be careful about usage of harsh words. If we haven't learned that yet then we would be learning them in a very hard way.

As a human being, we always have constant pressure on ourself to showcase better. But by masking certain aspect of ourself, which we aren't, we are not providing enough scope for ourselves to improve better.

If we don't yell out then how we would know, when, and where we shouldn't yell or should we never yell at all for a reason? If we don't cry then how we would know, how strong enough we are, and how well we could turn our sad emotions into tears? Those who have capabilities, they are literally having low depression in their lives. Suppressing within us, not going to help us. If we wouldn't have framed our sentences wrongly then how are we going to improve our language skills?

With this, we are not concluding by wrongly framing sentences or by having wrong dress sense is the only way to improve ourselves. If we are bad at certain things at a moment, let us be, let's not make an agenda to correct them then and there, let's be best of ourselves. Best need not to be being perfect always!

-Ramesh