Mood Swings
P.S: The following post is immature as it covers my experience and my perspective of seeing things and there is plenty of scope in this field to get explored as each individual is different and the intensity of emotions varies as well.
Here it goes,
It's not quite obvious but once in a while our mood swings from extremely happy to extremely sad. But the experience leaves behind the impression and memory footprint as same is unusual and has a great impact. If something moves gradually from one stage to another, we might not notice them at all but an extreme change in a very short period of time would create a remark and we can correlate to anything in this world with similar behavior.
For example, if we would have taken a hot shower and all of a sudden taking a shower with chilled water, we can feel the temperature difference that happens rapidly but even your body could sense the same and we could get cold too. That's quite an impact. Same with the cases of Rags to riches, probably few personalities wouldn't be ready to take the incomings and sometimes they fail too, if they are not calm, steady, and composed to observe those changes, but not sure if it was a good example.
So considering a similar analogy, we understand that mood swings might also make us lose our composure in seeing and observing things. We definitely don't have control over what happened but what is in our control is to observe what we are going through and try our best to figure out what causes the same and not to lose to our own emotion and try to stay calm if not composed and focused at least.
I keep hearing from people being male homo sapiens that regularly girls go through mood swings quite often due to PMS i.e., biological change they go through. Obviously, someone is going through some extreme pain in their abdomen and someone else want to laugh for their jokes, let's assume they did it too for while but we can't expect them to laugh for the whole day and they would get irritated as we can't ignore the pain they are going through even though they haven't shared with us but at the same time, we don't need to assume always that they are in periods, that's the reason they are getting irritated, better watch our behavior than being prejudice about theirs.
Not being feminist but let's try to make it gender-neutral and to form an analogy. Let's say, either we got severe toothache/stomach ache as they aren't external wounds, only the person who goes through it knows the pain.
Considering the fact, would we be in a mood to have a conversation with someone?
Let's assume, we got irritated with one we were having a conversation and another person comes to know about our pain then if they are really sensible, they would obviously understand what are we going through and would extend their help.
But not to be ignored that there are few persons who are insensible and would irritate even further by cross-questioning about the pain. And for the same reason, sometimes, we don't let someone know what we are really going through to avoid those unnecessary conversations, it's not going to help us in any manner. The point here is, if we can't be any help, try not to be harmful. For all the problems, we go through, not necessarily other people could extend help, sometimes it heals on its own.
With respect to PMS and associated mood swings, few insensible jerks make fun of it and form their own judgment about other person and their behavior, ignoring about their own, and this stigma got stuck for a while in them who failed to educate themselves.
It's everyone's responsibility to understand what kind of biological change each gender goes through. Even men go through biological change, where due to low testosterone in their body, causes mood swings is what I read somewhere on the internet. This is something, every gender goes through, probably one gender has to go through with much pain and all, where a person doesn't have control over the biological change until unless it is due to the lifestyle of a person, where there is some scope to be worked upon.
Let me also talk about what we have control over it, like addressing the core problem that causes an extremely unpleasant and unrestful mind.
For instance, if we don't acknowledge the real problem in the first place and waiting for the bubble to burst then certainly it would cause an unrestful mind. Sometimes, we might be trying to solve a problem that doesn't exist at all like over-analysis about something instead of going with the flow of life, also leave us in an unpleasant mood.
I really don't know how to frame this or explain but in middle of all this, if something really good happens then we might feel the mood swing as we haven't addressed the actual problem of ours, it would keep coming back to our notice and we wouldn't enjoy the moments that we were meant to be. Basically, we are fighting within ourselves to balance our emotions by going through overwhelming experience to extremely unpleasant ones. Finding closure for our real problem, which is in our control is going to bring peace to our minds. Also, what is not in our control, we shouldn't bother. Even if it is something to do with our body, what we all got on our control is not to become victim to our emotions but to rise above and stay calm.
If we talk about the impact of our mood swings then we understand it's going to irritable for us and to the one with whom we are interacting. We understand that another person is unaware of situations, so most of the time, we try to manage ourselves by not hurting them for no reason. Sometimes, things go out of our hand and we are helpless too. In this world, no one needs to know what we are going through unless we want to share with them and we are not responsible to share each and every aspect of our lives to anyone. Since we might lose our humbleness and calm, we should always try to avoid an evil tongue, something that is said, can't be taken back, it has a major impact than someone could ever imagine.
All we need is "me time", we should plan to go for a walk, watch our favorite stand-ups, experience nothing - literally nothing, watch stars in the sky if we got time count them too, stand in balcony enjoy the landscape, enjoy watching clouds and their weird shapes, watching dog chasing another dog on street, basically try to give "me time" for ourselves. The idea is to get our mind reset, give us more composure to observe things clearly, and come up with closure for our problem and understanding of acceptance of what we are going through is completely okay for someone to go through once in a while.
If we are going through mood swings very frequently then better to discuss with our very close friends who are always not judging us even though they pull our legs in our unpleasant days but they can be real medicine to our problem but if we don't have one in unfortunate condition, then we should open up to a stranger at least, in this case, it would be medical practitioner/consultant, we should take care of ourselves and seek for help, shouldn't shy to go further. Basically, we should figure out a way to share our problem and figure out closure. Otherwise, medication to be considered as the last option, if we couldn't get control of ourselves.
If we sense someone might be going through of same then better to give them that "me time" and need not get involved in cross-questioning. If they seek our help then we can offer our help otherwise give them their own time to get healed.
-Ramesh
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